Confucius said: Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves. What does he mean?
With revenge comes an intense desire to take back something that was lost. Even if the reason is only to restore one’s own dignity. In some cases it’s a matter of pride, in other cases it’s not.
While there is a thing called sweet revenge, there’s actually nothing at all sweet about it. In fact, what Confucius is saying here is that revenge is unhealthy. It’s usually accompanied by feelings of anger and bitterness. Those negative emotions can unfavorably affect your physical and mental health. Seeking revenge can be draining.
So, how do you calm those out of control emotions which move you to revenge? Here’s where God comes in. Through following his way, looking to him, praying, reading his Word, you can find peace in your life. Even a life that is out of control. He can help bring you back from the brink. To a place of calm, peace, tranquility.
Do you ever dream of revenge? Do you ever sort of plan what you might do to someone who has really hurt you? Yeah, me too. But, truly it’s not good for you or me to be doing that. In the long run we may get revenge, but we may suffer more also. Confucius said dig two graves because you may put the other person down, but you’ll go down, too, doing so.
Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. Philippians 4