“Oh, he makes me so mad!”
“When she acts like that, she gets me so upset!
Have you ever felt like this? Someone, best friend or brother/sister or a stranger, says or does something that just really tees you off. You go from the tee to the green in one tremendous shot. And, you’re gloomy and downcast for the next few days or weeks.
But, hang on here. Who is in charge of you? You are. No thing or no person can make you miserable without your permission. Yep. True. Your feelings belong to you. People’s acts may be fair or unfair, what they say may be true or false. It doesn’t matter. You have to give your permission to allow them to make you miserable.
It’s obvious from the Bible that God does not want you to live a miserable life. He wants you to be at peace, to love others (even to the point of forgiving their mistakes), to work at developing your relationships. Part of this plan is being in control of your feelings. You can’t help what others say; you can’t control them. But, you can ask God to help you be in control of your own feelings. That’s who God is…someone interested in helping you, guiding you, and, why not, he loves you.
You know in the next week, someone is going to say something hurtful to you. Don’t allow it to make your week miserable. Your feelings belong…to you! Ask God for his help, he’ll never fail you.
So we can say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper, so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?” Hebrews 13
Life can come undone. It can unravel. And it can happen in a flash. In the morning you walk out the door and everything’s okay. But, by evening you don’t know where you’re going to turn or how you’re going to make it. Are you looking for some hope? The dictionary definition of hope is “a feeling of expectation for a certain thing to happen.” Yet, you want more than just a feeling. You want the hope that’s described in this Emily Dickinson poem:
Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words
And never stops—at all.
A hope that enters your soul and “never stops.” Never stops. At all.
Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying. Romans 12
That’s the kind of hope that’s offered by God. In the verse above it says “rejoice in our confident hope.” Rejoice. Be glad. Be thrilled. Be elated. Be euphoric. Man, be on cloud 9! Because you have hope, and not just hope, but “confident hope.” Sure, certain, positive, no doubt hope! And how do you make it through those times when you’re falling apart? Be patient. Keep praying. God will listen and he will get you through it. Maybe he’ll console you, comfort you. Maybe he’ll connect you to a person who can help you. I can’t tell you exactly how, but he will.
Sometimes life is exhausting. Where do you get relief? There’s hope. Confident, assured hope that takes up residence deep in your soul. And sings without words. And never stops. At all.
And when things have gotten straightened out again…here’s how you’re gonna feel!!!